My daughter recently returned from a trip to visit her grandparents. While she was there she spent time having heart to heart talks with my mom. My mom is inquisitive and empathetic. She digs deep and loves hard, especially her granddaughter. One of their discussions included how my "unfogging" and consequent advocacy has effected Maddie. … Continue reading Center


Is Adoption a Better Life?

The recent separation of migrant families has caused a wave of despair throughout the adoption community. We have watched children ripped from their family; parents being deported while their children are dispersed throughout the U.S., left in foster care, and in some cases, in the custody of well known adoption agencies. With their future in … Continue reading Is Adoption a Better Life?

Sincerely, I See You

My daughter wrote a post.

Sincerely, I See You

You (Adoption) are very prominent in my life, and I am affected by you almost every day. I lost my sister to you, and I think about her every single day. We talk sometimes, but it isn’t the same- the separation wedges itself between us and keeps us from becoming too close. I see you in my mother, who is broken from the loss of not just her daughter, but her mother. I was fortunate enough to have a mom and a dad who kept me and raised me together, but Adoption, I see you.

I see you in past relationships (with adoptees) who struggled with feelings of abandonment and loneliness; believing nothing would ever last. I see you in the children I work with- acting out in cries for attention and something that is a constant.

Adoption, I see the sinister side to you, the…

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Divorce and Adoption: The Church Responds to a Family in Crisis

Christians grieve divorce like a death. They view it as family destruction, a broken covenant, and they mourn the loss a family will face. They offer counseling and resources in order to restore the marriage. The church community rallies around in support. They are very serious when it comes to saving a family from separation. … Continue reading Divorce and Adoption: The Church Responds to a Family in Crisis

I see you.

A seductive mistress, disguised as beauty and redemption. A thief shrouded in lace, extending her strong and graceful arms to steal, leaving a half-life on the floor. Don't make us beg for freedom or proclaim our gratitude. You chained us to your cold, dark cell. Imprisoned. Your false promises inflicted their wounds. So we sit, … Continue reading I see you.