Sincerely, I See You

My daughter wrote a post.

Sincerely, I See You

You (Adoption) are very prominent in my life, and I am affected by you almost every day. I lost my sister to you, and I think about her every single day. We talk sometimes, but it isn’t the same- the separation wedges itself between us and keeps us from becoming too close. I see you in my mother, who is broken from the loss of not just her daughter, but her mother. I was fortunate enough to have a mom and a dad who kept me and raised me together, but Adoption, I see you.

I see you in past relationships (with adoptees) who struggled with feelings of abandonment and loneliness; believing nothing would ever last. I see you in the children I work with- acting out in cries for attention and something that is a constant.

Adoption, I see the sinister side to you, the…

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